The Bare Minimum Requirements

One of the first questions I get asked in the early stages of interacting with a potential servant is “what are you looking for in a sub/slave?”

So, for the sake of ease and my sanity, here is everything you need to know so I don’t have to keep regurgitating the same information over and over again.

Basic Qualities:

Obedient:

do as you’re told, when you’re told, in the timeframe you are told to do it in.

Consistent:

in every aspect of your life and personality, not just within the confines of our dynamic or relationship.

Intuitive:

being submissive does not mean that you never have to think for yourself again, you still have a brain — use it.

Self Aware:

emotional intelligence and maturity are non-negotiable, I am chronically psychologically centred; if you don’t believe in or have never been to therapy we will not get along.

Generous:

what’s yours is mine and that isn’t up for debate or discussion.

Intelligent:

chances are I will have a higher IQ than you, and that’s okay, however I’m incapable of tolerating stupidity and weaponised incompetence.

Selfless:

can you even call yourself submissive if all you ever think about is yourself?

Optimistic/Positive:

negative energy breeds negative energy, and nobody likes to be around someone that complains all the time.

Honest:

I have a strict one strike policy, you lie to me once and you’re out the fucking door.

General Demeanour & Personality:

I’m only interested in submissives that wake up every morning truly devoted and eager to worship every part of me; my mind, my body, my soul, my personality — everything. If you only ever want to fulfil your specific worship fetish (i.e.: foot fetishists ignoring everything but my feet, for example) then I have no interest in allowing you to serve, and you should look into professional real time sessions within your budget rather than trying to build a one-sided dynamic with a lifestyle Domme just bc you’re broke.

Nobody in this community is in kinkspace all the time, and I am no exception; I don’t want to be in hardcore Domme mode 24/7, therefore I appreciate a submissive that is able to speak to me like I’m a full-blown complex human being rather than some kind of dispenser for their kinky fantasies.My dominance is natural and you will always be aware of our dynamic and your place, however if I’m not able to be vulnerable and you’re not able to be supportive then why are you even trying to build any kind of relationship at all?

Let's talk about Melanin Fetishism real quick:Black Supremacy and Melanin Fetishism are two different things; the former is Afrocentric, and the latter is Eurocentric - if you don't understand the difference, I'm not the Domme for you. I do not tolerate, appreciate or respect a submissive (or person) that fetishises an entire human being based on the colour of their skin.Objectively, melanin fetishists minimise and invalidate Black struggles and experiences, and perpetuate racial stereotypes that are dangerous and problematic; therefore, if you have any interest in BBC, snow bunnies, queens of spades, and/or your love of Black People is rooted in (self)hatred for white people:Politely: fuck all the way off, and when you're done fucking off - fuck off again.Less politely: delete yourself from society.

Other Things to Note:

If you’re under 25 then please let’s just not; find somebody age appropriate bc you will not be serving me.

I have absolutely ZERO interest in associating with people that have kids.

I don't like/tend to take on Switches as long-term subs.

If you have an issue with FinDom, FinDommes, or Fetish Professionals we won't get along.

I would really prefer that you're comfortable being in content (with a mask, nobody wants to see your face), but this isn't a necessity.